I’ve been brought up to say Please and Thank you over anything. When I am offered a drink I respond with either “yes please” or “no thank you”. So how many of you feel appalled by people who lack these words in their vocabulary? I feel as though a moral crime has been committed and sometimes I must admit my reactions are a bit far fetched.
Example 1: I’m stood outside and a mother with child is rolling the pram towards the exit. I open the door for her and get no recognition at all. I suppress my immediate frustration and see another group of individuals about to walk through the door I’m holding. I decide to wait for them to be a polite civilian. Five people strolled through the door, all without saying thank you and this brought out the hulk within. “Don’t worry about it, Thank you is a difficult word to grasp!” Whoops, I blurted that out accidentally, but one person turned to me and immediately apologised.
Example 2: Driving in my car I see a person who has been waiting to be let into my lane from a side street for a fairly long time. Out of the 10-15 cars in front I left a gap and let them in. I expected recognition for my kindness but I got absolutely nothing. Worse still I felt helpless. I imagined ramming his car to relieve the hulk inside of me. The most I could do was swear and shout from the comfort of my car and debate whether it’s worth letting anyone else in ever again. For that journey I became a selfish driver.
I blame my mother for bringing me up to believe that manners and respect for others is an essential tool. I blame my primary school for enforcing it. It seems that manners are out of fashion, like an old tradition that no longer exists. Such a shame.
I would love to hear your moans about manners. I can think of dozens of examples for instance, waiting in a queue and someone pushes in, making someone a coffee and they don’t say thank you. Share some of your moans and let out the hulk.