I am an absolute lover of Dubstep. I whole heartedly love how a composition of random sounds can create such a build up and release of emotions with the use of space and timing.

So why is it the death of Dubstep? You might have heard the uncultured crap that surrounds us on the radio. Well a few years back no-one had heard of Dubstep aside from the true fans who would party underground, stand around the DJ and watch him /her hit buttons while scratching the vinyl to create something epic. Now you hear a toned down, heartless version of dubstep on most radio stations. It has been pushed into the bridge, or the chorus, like in songs from Rhianna (Rated R Album where Chase & Status sold their souls to work with her) with a toneless drop and what could hardly be called a dubstep tune.

The sad thing is the more commercial Dubstep becomes, the more diluted it will get just to please the standard ears who lack diversity. I for one have an eclectic taste in music so for me it’s a depressing time for dubstep. I just hope the true fans hold on and continue to find the genius’s out there who still hold dubstep true to the heart.

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Valentine’s Day equals “I love you”. Flocks of sheep dash to stores to buy overpriced roses, heart shaped chocolates, meaningless cards and designer lingerie. The restaurants see pound signs above every couples head as they double their prices and order in the cheapest meats. What a brilliant scene to picture as the schoolgirls open their umpteenth card, the boys all hope their handwriting has been recognised, and the husbands look forward to reaping their rewards.

I think Valentine’s day is a huge waste of money when we have a duty to show love to people we genuinely adore every day of the year. Does it mean more to people that their partner is a valentine’s sheep?

INTERESTING FACT:

The leftists and liberal critiques of India believe it is unacceptable to show public affection and the promotion of such activities is evil (as in devils and demons type of evil). This is the same country that has helped the entire world with their famous book the Kamasutra. Which may I add, we are all truly thankful for.

How many of you have been walking down the road when a complete stranger who happens to have the same pace as you, finds him/herself walking alongside you? Do you find it an awkward situation?

Recently while I was walking from my local train station to my home, a stranger turned around the corner and walked alongside me down the street. His initial thought must have been to speed up to give me some distance, which I happened to be thinking also so we sped up together. This was uncomfortable so I began to slow down… he did also. Now being so in-tune with one another’s uncomfortableness ought to have made this less awkward, but alas it didn’t. Neither of us would give each other eye contact and both of us resorted to speeding up to distance ourselves from one another. The result was a race up this fairly steep hill.

One foot lifted with knee slightly bent, body leaning forward to assist with gravity, I placed one foot in front of the other with speed. The chap was doing the same which did make me wonder, what’s the best way to walk quick? Is it to walk with large strides, or small but quick ones? Now was not the time to test this theory as I would look like a plonker, so I kept to the small stride, speedy one foot in front of the other walk. So did the chap and unfortunately we both were as quick as each other. At this point though if either of us were to slow down it would feel like defeat so neither of us gave up. This had become an actual race for superiority and with no knowing when the race was going to end neither of us was slowing down.

With a badly parked car half on the curb, half on the street, we both knew that this race had found its finish line. One would have to slow down to let the other through. I had been on this main road the entire time so I felt that I have right of way, but then again we never set any rules and the chap isn’t showing signs of slowing so do I try to speed up even more or just let him go ahead? No, I shall not be beaten, I hate losing, and he should be polite and let me through. It’s a matter of principal. I have the upper hand as I can continue to walk without cutting him up, whereas he has to decide whether to be daring and cut in-front of me which would just be plain rude. To win this race I was going to have to test the long stride walk theory as even two strides would put me in-front of this chap and prevent any under cutting.

I put my leg out clear in front and then the other one swayed naturally forward. The benefit of being a woman is my hips naturally sway, men you really fail here! I pushed out in front and won the lead, and just after the car I took my turn onto a petrol station and slowed down. Regardless of whether I’m overtaken now I have won. Plus I really would prefer the man to overtake me now so he doesn’t see where I live. Well you never know, he may want a rematch.

I am staring at my Twix bar right now. I have a hot coffee right in front of me and if I were at home I’d bite off both ends of the Twix and use it as a straw until the caramel caves .

I’m in the office right now so I have a mini debate going on in my head… would it look unprofessional to do this? Of course people would see that it’s a bit out there but would people disapprove? I often wonder who decided what was acceptable in certain environments. It’s clearly considered rude to pick your nose in public. In fact I’ve seen a few people do this in the comfort of their own car and I’m still appalled. But sticking a Twix in a coffee isn’t exactly gross. Or is it?

I’m the kid who would buy a bowl of chips for 50p (school dinner’s cheapest food) and dip it into a free bowl of custard. Now that sounds gross to pretty much every reader right now but don’t knock it till you try it. If I was the kid who cared little for public politeness then why do I have to conform in the workplace?

Well the Twix is still staring at me, my coffee is half drank and I’m none the wiser. Guess the child in me will have to remain at home. Such as shame we are all told it’s best to grow up…. we miss out on so many simple pleasures.

Networking can be a frightful concept to some people. Even to this day I still find it a very intimidating environment. You walk in to a room of thirty people and immediately head to the coffee table. Why? Because you look busy, you can hold a cup in your hand (defensive pose), and it gives you the comfort of looking preoccupied.

On the inside, the majority of us will walk into the room and be filled with apprehension. Although logic suggests that everyone is there to socialise, emotions are hard to control and the fear of rejection seeps through. This is normal. I’ve attended seminars where even the most confident speakers have admitted feeling fear.

So what comes first?

LOGIC– everyone is there to mingle, talk about their businesses and see if they can help anyone. It’s important to remind yourself of this. Ignore those little insecurities and be bold.

Walk into that room with the knowledge that there are plenty of people who feel just like you. If you need a drink then head to the beverages BUT talk to the people who are pouring themselves a drink. The chances are they are doing the same thing as you so are welcoming a conversation from you.

STOP doubting yourself, it doesn’t matter that you are young, female, male, short, tall, old, have an odd business that’s hard to explain, or that your competitor is in the room. Just be yourself at all times and remember NOT TO look at everyone’s name tag and the company they work for. You are failing to think about the benefits of everyone in that room the moment you do this.

One key thing about networking:

YOU ARE NOT TRYING TO SELL YOUR BUSINESS TO THE PEOPLE IN THE ROOM. YOU ARE TRYING TO BUILD A RELATIONSHIP AND USE THE CONNECTIONS THAT THESE PEOPLE HAVE.

A common mistake for most people at networking events is they try to sell you their business from the moment you have introduced yourself. You listen to their business and all you are thinking is how could my business fit in with this company? If they offer something you don’t need you disregard their business card. They will do the same. If you begin to realise that neither you can help each other directly but you may have contacts to share then you immediately open your network up to a wealth of opportunities. If you spoke to the thirty people in that room and they each had five connections worth knowing, then you will have extended your reach to 150 businesses.

Walking away.

It’s comforting to stick with the person you introduced yourself to. It is often hard to leave the conversation even when you are both tired of each other’s company. So leaving a conversation politely is something that you need to remember. Whilst standing with that person, ensure your posture is open and welcoming. Standing face to face with one another is a closed position that will prevent other people from engaging. Standing side by side will welcome people to join in which allows you to leave politely while the other person is engaged. If however this opportunity does not arrive politely say something along the lines of “it’s been a pleasure meeting you today, best introduce myself to a few more people but thank you for your time, I will be in touch very shortly.”

After the event.

Contact the people you spoke to as soon as you can. Email them within 24 hours, add them on LinkedIn, and call them after a few days. Keep yourself fresh in their minds. Networking is not a hunt, it’s like farming. You develop your relationship and get to know that person. You build trust, support one another and then you will naturally choose to promote each other.

Final Tip.

When you are interacting with people you need to leave your mark. This can be very difficult to do if there are a large amount of people. You need to ensure that when a person picks up your business card they remember your face, your personality and how you can help them. The best way to leave your mark is to take a pen with you. When you hand over your business card write something on it in front of them. This will take them out of their card swapping tradition and make them think. I draw a smiley face and say “hopefully you won’t forget me now” as I smile an awful lot. This has proven to be a huge success for me.

Right an embarrassing topic now. I even wonder whether I should say anything but who has heard of an accidental armpit fart? Yes you read that right, the accidental armpit fart.

So I’m sat down with my friend enjoying a film when I lean to grab my phone. As I pull my arm back in it inexplicably lets out a fart sound. This has never happened to me ever before. I looked at my armpit in shock; my mouth wide open as if I’d seen a ghost. I then looked at my friend to see if she had noticed and to my relief she seemed engrossed in the film. I shook my head in relief but I glared back at my armpit. Why did you do that? How did that even happen? Will it happen again?

I live in marginal fear at the thought of this ever happening again. I know it’s something to let an actual fart slip, I mean that’s embarrassing enough, but can you imagine having to apologise for an armpit fart?

 

My eye started twitching on the train this morning. I tried to ignore it at first but after a few more twitches I started to feel like my eye was going into labour as the period of contractions grew shorter. I covered my eye with my hand instantly and willed the twitch to stop. Epic fail. I put pressure on where I felt the main twitch was, but it kept going. This twitch has a strong pulse and it wasn’t afraid to show the world.

What I find funny is the reactions that people take to instances like this. You know your eye is twitching, you can feel it is. Yet the first thing you ask someone is “is my eye twitching?” You want to see if anyone can see it. Hopefully no one can see this and that’s okay you can live with that. So I asked my friend sat beside me “is my eye twitching?” I point to the eye and lean in to her face so she could examine me.

“It is a little bit yeah”. She replies

“It’s bad isn’t it?” This twitch has a heartbeat of its own; it’s growing, so it’s got to be twitching far more than she’s letting on. People will notice and I’ll look weird.

“No, it’s really not that bad. Every few seconds it twitches a bit more obviously but its okay. What’s wrong?”

I don’t know what’s wrong but the fact it twitches more obviously every few seconds is definitely not helping it go. She’s just given the twitch an ego. It’s going to need a birth certificate soon.

What is wrong? I felt fine this morning, I hadn’t slept as much as I’d liked but this isn’t the normal response. Normally I just yawn. Was it the late caffeine? Well all I know is that this is a situation and I’m about to get off the train and face Birmingham with a twitching eye. People might think I’m winking at them! Only two options:

1)      Walk with your head up high and welcome the twitch to the world

2)      Look at the floor and look like you are an unconfident twit

I preferred to look like an unconfident twit who felt the need to hold their right eye.

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